When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion. ~Dale Carnegie
I just spoke with a friend of mine who was overwhelmed with doubt, anger and regret. Her sadness was beginning to define her. It started and ended her day and affected every aspect of her life. I was ready and equipped with all kinds of platitudes and psychobabble that I was sure would instantly fix all her problems, but she didn’t want to hear it. Her hurts were too deep and too entrenched to accept any help, even my sad little attempts. It made me realize that emotions are very powerful, but not always trustworthy.
Emotions are designed to keep you alive. Fear keeps us away from the edge. Happy draws us closer. Sad is a reaction to pain. Excited prepares you for an event. All of these are helps for the near term. They are the tools our soul uses to complete our daily tasks.
However, emotions are terrible for making long term, life changing decisions. Buying a car because it looks nice won’t tell you about the cracked engine block under the hood. Sorrow over a broken relationship will not prepare you for the perfect match who is waiting around the corner.
Here’s an exercise. Try and think of one thing – anything – that has left you feeling the same year in and year out. Nothing – good or bad – can keep your emotions in check. Even your favorite song played over and over will grind your gears after awhile.
Emotions are good and necessary. They are gifts from God and can save your life, but if they contradict God’s wisdom then you just might be playing with fire. Now, God may ask you to do something counter-intuitive, but I’m pretty sure he does it through his “still small voice” and not random thrills and chills. And if he contradicts logic he will help you with a heaping scoop of wisdom to go with it.
If God asks you to talk to a stranger, heal a sick person, pray for a neighbor its by talking to your spirit, not pumping you full of endorphins, or giving you warm tinglies. The voice of God is always accompanied by a dose of wisdom. He won’t ask you to talk to someone without telling you what to say. He won’t tell you to heal the sick without giving you the faith to accomplish that. We may doubt we can do it, but he doesn’t.
That is why we are admonished through out the Proverbs to seek wisdom.
How much better is it to get wisdom than gold! and to get understanding rather to be chosen than silver! (Proverbs 16:16 )
Wisdom and insight are what turn goosebumps into something you can actually live with. Wisdom validates your emotions, or proves they are false. So the next time you feel sad and worry that you will never be happy again, or you feel passion and want to jump into a relationship with someone you barley know – stop and take a deep breath. Slow down and seek wisdom. God promised to give it and frankly we could do with a lot more of it.
Be wise and…
Eric – TheGodBlogger